I had the good fortune to have a real mother, one that worked hard to support us and worried about us constantly. I am constantly reminded of how lucky I was being born into the family I have by the plight of the far less fortunate.
We weren’t the Cleavers by any means, but we came out pretty good all things considered.
I could have been like a young lady I met, whose mother is a using and abusing alcoholic, trying to ruin the girls life with need and never letting go, trying to drag her down and destroy hope.
I could have been like so many other children, beaten and abused, and found as skeletal remains many years later.
I could have been cheap labor, used to fuel the family budget, and ignored at every opportunity.
I could have been a lot of things that I am not. I have my mother to thank for that, she never gives up on us even when she probably should have.
Mom fed and clothed five of us, tried her best to get us through school, and give us what we really needed even though the finances seldom allowed what we wanted.
Mom isn’t perfect, I have never met a perfect person in 51 years. But finding a better person would prove difficult by any standards.
She moved us clear across the country, to remove us from the hell of our poverty, she wore rags and holy shoes to make sure we had clothes for school.
She worked two and three jobs to feed us, cloth us and keep a roof over our heads.
She put our lives above her own so often that when I got older I often wondered what she could have been if it weren’t for us.
She could have been anything she pleased, she had the looks and brains to have it all, instead she chose to take care of her kids.
She taught me to read when I was four, she taught me about many things and listened to anything I had to say.
I am far from perfect, I was a wild child who exceeded at finding trouble. I caused my mom a whole lot of trouble that I wish I could return in time and change. I am by far the worst problem she had.
She had to throw me out at seventeen for my trouble, only to take me back and prop me up when I failed. I quit school and plunged head first into a world of drugs and rebellion. I think my mother is the only thing that pulled me back before it was too late
She never gave up, never gave in and eventually I turned around and straightened out, most of the people I called friend from that time are gone. The human body can only take so much and it will quit if continually abused.
Mine isn’t doing so hot now, but it’s from working hard, not from smoking dope and drinking.
How many parents put their children first? How many will forfeit their own lives for the sake of a kids future? How many parents refuse to have a social life so that their ungrateful brats might have a chance? Read the papers or watch the news, there are an awful lot who don’t!
Thank you mom, without you I never would have had a chance.
Thomas H. Forthe